If you have made the choice to write your own wedding vows, it can be a challenge figuring out the direction you'd like to take it. There are many "templates" or "how to's", which can be helpful in your quest for words.
For this post, we dug around for some pointers to help get that pen (or typing) moving.
There isn't anything (in our opinion) more impactful than speaking straight from the heart. So in addition to the suggestions below, make sure to take the time you need to get connected to your center and speak from there. Happy writing!
Do you have any suggestions? Please feel free to comment below!
Writing Wedding Vows
1. Decide if you want to write them together.
Do you and your partner like the element of surprise? Or would you rather collaborate on ideas? Finding what is most true for your relationship is the best way to go.
2. Choose a maximum word count.
When writing something like wedding vows, it can be easy to get carried away. All of that is fine and it is also important to create some sort of structure to help with the writing process. Another thing to consider is your guests probably don't want to listen to 30 mins worth of vows...haha
3. Figure out a structure.
Maybe you can each start with "I vow to...." or "This is why I love you..."
4. Answer some questions.
Take the time to answer questions that are important to you in a marriage and about your spouse. Some examples :
What is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry?
When did you know that you were in love/ know that this person was the one you wanted to marry?
What does marriage mean to you? Why do you want to be a married person?
What is the most important thing you want to promise to your partner? What is the promise you most want to hear from them? (For example, it might be really important to you to promise that you will always respect them. Or you might really want them to promise their eternal fidelity.)
What will change about your relationship once you are married? What will stay the same?
5. Practice. Practice. Practice
Read your vows out loud. Read them to someone you trust. Read them and when your gut tells you its ready, be at peace with it!
This post was done in collaboration with Rosey Gonzales